What is Anger Management?
adapted from Gaining Control of Ourselves Anderson and Anderson 2005
Gaining Control of Ourselves is the workbook used by Sherman Oaks Anger Management
What Can I expect to learn in Anger Management classes?
- You will recognize your role in changing "maladaptive" behavior.
- You will understand and recognize your anger/stress patterns and responses.
- You will be able to identify "situational anger" that consistently results in angry responses that lead to violent behavior.
- You will learn to use coping strategies to handle anger.
- You will learn skills and listening techniques to improve communication with co-workers, peers and loved ones.
Anger Checklist -- How is Your Anger?
- People tell you that you need to calm down?
- You feel tense much of the time.
- At work or school, you find yourself not saying what is on your mind.
- When you are upset, you try to block the world out by watching TV, reading a book, isolating on the Internet, or going to sleep?
- You have trouble going to sleep.
You feel misunderstood or not listened to.
- Your loved ones keep saying that you are hurting them.
- Friends do not seek you out as much.
Styles of Communication
There are four major styles of communication. Most of us use different styles depending on the situation, our moods and the behavior of the person with whom we are communicating
- Passive Communication: The passive communicator avoids direct eye contact, fails to accurately express feelings and tends to have low self-esteem. Anger is self-directed rather than directed at the source of the anger
- Passive-Aggressive communication: The passive-aggressive communicator often sounds passive but is hostile in his manner of speaking. He often uses sarcasm and other hostile gestures to get his point across. The listener is left without any indication of what the passive-aggressive communicator needs or wants.
- Aggressive Communication: The aggressive communicator invades the space of the listener, speaks in a threatening manner, and may throw objects, glare or attempt to intimidate the listener. He or she often attempts to blame the listener for whatever the source of the disagreement may be.
- Assertive Communication: The assertive communicator speaks in a reasonable tone, establishes eye contact with the listener, uses “I messages”, and clearly states needs, feelings and requests. The listener is invited to work towards a mutually satisfactory resolution of the conflict. The speaker consciously influences the listener by his own behavior. He demonstrates skills in emotional intelligence
Sherman Oaks Anger Management provides anger management classes to residents of Los Angeles, CA. Classes are designed to help people manage angry feelings and eliminate violent behavior. All classes are taught by Certified Anger Management Facilitators trained in the Anderson and Anderson Model. Classes are approved by the Los Angeles Courts.
Marriage Counseling, Parenting Classes & Individual Counseling and Psychotherapy also available by licensed mental health professionals.
Blue Shield PPO provider